Chatrooms are a great place to meet potential friends, and perhaps lovers and even
better you don't have to dress up and pass visual inspection to go there
The anonymity of a chatroom means that if you mess up or you don`t want to continue
to get to know him you can just leave the chatroom and don`t go back or you can change
your log-in nickname.
This is not a license to be obnoxious, but it does give you plenty of room to practice
making friends with strangers.
are some tips to help you out when using chatrooms.
Protect your identity
If you want total control of the information that is to often revealed to the world
through chatrooms, don't use your personal or your work-related e-mail. You should sign up
for an e-mail account specifically to use for chatting on line. You can use our free e-mail service.
Don`t reveal private information
Be careful about the information you give in casual conversation. Don`t give any hint of
your work place, your home town or other personal info that can be linked to where you
Listen to your head
Use your common sense and judgment. If someone sounds creepy or a bit dodgey, there`s a
good chance they are. If your flirting is getting a bit out of hand for your like speak up
or change your e-mail address and nickname.
Getting to know people
If you want people to be open and honest with you, you must also do the same. You don`t
have to go into personal details but don`t pretend to be someone your not other wise you
will only attract the people that are looking for the type of person you are pretending to
Don`t expect to much
Remember that you are using a chatroom so you have no idea what this person really looks
like or what his personality is like. You may build a mental image of him. Don`t because 9
out 10 you will be wrong and will feel disappointed if he doesn`t live up to your
expectations. Keep an open mind and you won`t be disappointed.
Develop common activities
Make dates with each other to share activities, like playing online games or sharing a
forum. Talk about how long you expect to communicate online before meeting.
Don`t fake photos
If you decide to swap pictures, send a current picture which is flattering, but doesn't
hide or distort your true appearance. Misleading pictures are probably the leading cause
of disappointments in relationships that start on the Internet. What ever you do make sure
that you give him a photo of you and not someone else or you`ll never be able to meet him
because he will think you are someone else.
If You get to the point in your online relationship where you decide you want to meet each
other, arrange to meet in public where you will be comfortable and safe. Meet in a busy
place, over coffee or a casual meal. Be prepared in case you don`t like him and have a
back up plan. Ask a friend to phone you an hour after meeting him and you can tell her you
will phone her later if you two are getting on well. If you aren`t getting on well you can
make an excuse and leave. Remember to always let someone know where you are at all time.